If the holidays make you nervous, anxious, or stressed because of any kind of FAMILY dynamic, then today's episode is specifically just for you. We're going to talk through some of the ways you can avoid having drama, stressing yourself out about people pleasing, and instead hold really good, healthy holiday boundaries to make 2023 your most codafree holiday season ever. I also have a download for you if you feel like you could use a little help with some examples of healthy holiday boundaries! Go to my profile on Instagram @corrinestokoe and DM me the word HOLIDAYS, and I'lI send you my list of healthy holiday boundary examples that you can keep in your back pocket and brush up on before all your family holiday gatherings or as those conversations pop up in your family group texts or when you see your in-laws phone calls come through. ALSO if you find today's episode helpful to you, make sure you're following me @corrinestokoe on Instagram because we're going to be doing a LIVE series every day next week, November 13-17, at 10am pacific time, where we'll talk about having codafree holidays this year in way more depth, we'll be answering more questions that people submit and giving lots of tips on this topic.
Time Stamps:
[01:22] – Corinne and Neil recall one of the worst fights in their relationship, which happened around the holidays.
[10:26] – What does codependency look like during the holidays?
[15:32] – “What would it look like if _____?”
[22:31] – Corinne and Neil give examples of how to have a Codafree Healthy Holiday.
[30:31] – Do you find it tricky to balance time between families during holidays?
[41:16] – Do you have an overbearing family member disrupting your holiday?
[47:57] – Are you close to family members who don’t get along with each other?
[54:36] – How do you communicate your holiday non-negotiables?
Supporting Resources:
If you're curious at all about how codependent you might be, go to mintarrow.com/quiz to take our free “how codependent are you” quiz to find out!
Get our list of Codafree Healthy Holiday Boundaries by DMing me the word
HOLIDAYS on instagram.com/corrinestokoe
“Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself” Book by Melody Beattie
“Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If You Life Depended On It” Book by Chris Voss
“Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less” Book by Greg Mckeown
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